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In our relationships, when we focus on our problems, we lose our power to be and act effectively. Problems lie in the lack of inventing a future for our relationships “as a possibility.” If we switch that, if we invent ourselves (instead of just reacting), the way the world occurs shifts—we could be in a relationship with Godzilla, or anyone. Read more >

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Having power, success, and freedom is a lot more risky than having not having them. This business about freedom, about power, is really a product of a place to stand. It takes courage to live in a transformed way—to give up mediocrity, to live consistent with what we know is possible, even when there’s nothing urgent at stake. Read more >

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We often approach life counting on a certain order of things, thinking that predictability and control are possible. Then we encounter the experience of uncertainty, and we don’t readily see an effective way of being related to it. We attempt to apply patterns of order—and the more we do that, the less effective we become… Read more >

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Landmark Insights: Risking being changed by what we hear

We essentially enter into conversations with some favorable or unfavorable judgment, evaluation, opinions, questions that are already and always at play: “I know” or “I know better,” “is it true” or “is it false,” “am I going to like/dislike or agree/disagree with what’s being said,” “is it right or wrong,” “is it going to make me look good or bad,” etc, etc. Read more >

Landmark Insights: Risking being changed by what we hear
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An “expectation unfulfilled” or “ideal unfulfilled” leads to a lack of power, where a “possibility unfulfilled” leads to a possibility—and no loss of power or freedom. When we look at our experience vs. what we’d hoped for or how we thought things would go (but it didn’t turn out that way), then go out and create a new possibility, it can feel like that’s against a backdrop that negates it. Read more >

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